So I don't know a lot about you, but I know that my parents aren't divorced. That being said, I'm not going to talk about this from experience. All of my words are going to be coming from my observance of blended families and loved ones. I just wanted to get that out of the way before I even start.
In my opinion, so many people look down on blended families. It's almost like is a plague in the world. I don't get that! There is really nothing wrong with having a step parent or even step siblings. I know that a lot of you may have parents that are divorced, but please don't have any ill feelings towards them. I have seen a pattern among young people when their parents get divorced. They get so angry at them! I understand that this is not how you wanted your family to turn out, but there is nothing that you can really do about it at the point of divorce. Don't go out and try that parent trap non-sense. If your parents are divorced, then please just learn to love one another. It is already so hard to live in a world of anger and hate, so why would you want to bring that into your family? So for those of you with blended families, just LOVE.
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A lot of you don't even think about parenting. Its not something you are generally thinking about on a daily basis. I do know two people though that think about it all the time; your parents. Parent's are such a wonderful gift to us! I can tell you though that when I was your age I definitely didn't believe that at all.
My parents are amazing. I was always hating them though, because they wouldn't just let me do what I wanted to do. I would kick, fight, yell, and hit with everything they told me to do. Eventually I realized though... my parents are just people. They were just sent down to earth to help rear me in the right direction, and I was getting in the way of that! I know a lot of you probably just hate your parents right now. You're at the age to hate your parents, yes. One thing I do ask of you is to take a moment to sit and think about what they are thinking. Think about how they feel when you do those things that you do. I know they are kind of a pain, and you are probably grounded way too often if you're anything like me. But parents are a gift. We really shouldn't take advantage of that. I know that a lot of people your age have fathers that aren't really too involved in your life. While studying this subject all I can think of telling you is to forgive them. I know sometimes people in your life really hurt you, and they don't understand the amount of pain you feel; that is never an excuse to feel hatred towards someone. Fathers are really important in your life. They really help shape who you do or don't become.
If you have a dead beat dad, LEARN FROM THAT. I have plenty of friends from the city I grew up in that had their dads leave before they were born. They never have had a true father figure in their life, but they are doing just fine! Learn to love everyone, and show the world the love your father was too scared to show you. If you have a wonderful father like I do, please don't take advantage of that. I am so blessed to know that my dad loves me and will provide for me until he no longer can. Fathers are so important, and I truly hope that non of us every take that for granted. Hug your fathers, tell them you love them, and never for one second feel like he doesn't love you. This week our topics were a little less heavy than our previous ones. Talking about communication really opened up my eyes to the things that our society lacks, and has lacked, for a very long time. Your generation is going to have a huge impact on that, and lets try to make that impact positive!
I can honestly say that I know exactly what it feels like to feel like you don't know how to communicate something to someone. Whether it's positive or negative communication, its all essential! There have been so many times that something is bugging me and I don't speak up about it; in the long run that almost makes things worse. You need to learn to communicate and speak up about the issues that you are having. I've really noticed that your generation also likes to speak up maybe a little too much. If you have a problem with something there is no need to go out and riot all over the place. With this last election, I understand that some of you may be mad about the outcome. There is no reason to go out and ruin other peoples possessions. I fully support the quiet protesting; you have a right to state your opinion. All the hate and anger is just over the top and it shows very negative communication skills. I am sorry for anyone I have offended. This is something I have really been pondering, and I hope that some will take my words into consideration. Oh mama mia this is a big one! With the way the world is going now a days there is a ton of stresses in family life. I think that one thing we really need to do is to find something that the whole family can do together to dissolve the stresses. If the parents are stressed, usually the children will be as well.
Stress is actually really dangerous to have in a family. It could possibly make people think that they can't do something which causes someone to give up or fail. Many divorces are a result of unaddressed stress problems in the marriage. One thing that is so important, like I said above, is to find time to calm down the feelings together. I would really suggest a date night every Friday or something. Learning to calm down the tough situations is a talent that will come with practice! All you have to do is be willing to try, and nine times out of ten you will end up resolving those stresses in your life. Recently we have been talking a lot about some touchy subjects. I know that it's something that can bring in a lot of different opinions and comments, and I actually encourage that! Please do comment and leave your point of view for me to expand my vision on these subjects.
We talked a lot about sexual relations in marriage and family life this week. I have a lot of different things to say about this being from a Mormon culture. I really do believe that you should wait until marriage to have sex. It is something that is so sacred and special, and it shouldn't be misused and abused. That being said, if you do mess up in life, please don't beat yourself up about it! If you truly repented for the things you have one than you deserve the absolute best, just like everyone else. I will be the first to tell you that life is not that easy, and there are so many things to get mixed up in and hung up on! I know because I've been there. Life really has a way of kicking you down, but the atonement is there to pick you back up. If you have accidentally or even purposely sinned, you can fix it. You will never be so far off the path that you can't get back. So my last post was about dating; now we are going to talk about marriage! Now, I know that a lot of you aren't even thinking about marriage at this point and that's a good thing. I think that there is this common phenomenon that once you get married everything is going to be all happy dandy for the rest of forever. Oh my oh my that is not true. I mean, yes marriage is amazing and I strongly encourage everyone to marry if they can. Just remember that marriage is not something you can just give up or get out of.
Some days are going to be a lot harder than others. You just need to remember that when you married them you promised to go through all the good and bad times together. This is going to be a shorter blog because I really feel like this is something that is common sense. If you love someone enough to marry them and promise your life to them, then you have to love them through that life you've promised. Oh boy oh boy do I have things to say about this. Dating is some kind of crazy game that people like to call "falling in love." I have found that as I have dated around recently I have fallen more in love with who I am than with anyone. And you know what, that is totally okay! There are things in this world that people agree with and others don't; I don't think you need a significant other in order to be happy or in love. Be in love with your life, your adventures, the quirky things about you. THAT is true love.
Kids, I hope you find someone that is right for you. I know that I haven't, and that's okay! I just want to say that it doesn't matter if you're 18 or 65, you should wait for that one person that makes your heart skip a beat every time you see them walk through a door. Now, I am not one of those LDS people that believe in young marriage. I think that you should wait until you're a little more mature and know what you are getting yourself into. I can agree that it is right for some people, but for most I think you should wait. In a world where we have people pushing us to do things we don't want to do, we should make sure that we are ready for that commitment. I know that this is kind of a weird topic, and there will be a lot more of these! This is just something I am particularly passionate about. Alright guys, I'm going to get a little serious over here for a minute. This week in class the topic of gays and lesbians came up. I know I have said this in some of my other posts but I just want to say it again; I am not here to offend anyone. I am here to simply put my opinion out there and if you don't like it than I am not offended if you click the little Facebook tab up there on your browser to exit off my site.
All of this "why am I gay" and "I was just born this way" stuff is getting a little ridiculous to me. It has become apparent that it is just kind of the new fad to be gay. I agree, that there are some people that truly do struggle with being attracted to the same sex, but it is not a natural tendency that we should have. I know that it is because of some peoples upbringings that has caused them to feel they are that way, but there is always time and room to change. As I have said before, I am LDS. I grew up in California where I got a lot of people bulling because because I apparently hated gay people (which has never been and never will be the case). I think that we should let gay people get married. I would never take away anyone's agency, and I would expect them to never take away mine as well. Over the years though, they have fought to get married in our sacred temples that we have built on this earth. Now THAT is where we should draw the line. I do not believe in mixing the government and religion. I will never let someone defile and go against my beliefs in the holy buildings that we call our temples. So please, stop saying "mormons hate gays." We don't! We love anyone and everyone. We just simply want to keep our holy temples holy. You know, I grew up really fortunate. I am from a nice area and I never lacked in fun activities to do when I was younger. Although I grew up in a family that didn't struggle financially, my parents sure didn't get me whatever I wanted. In fact, they taught me how to work for what I want from a very young age. I really think that is something that I benefited me throughout my life.
In this post I want to talk to the youth that are struggling with financials in their families. DO NOT GET DISCOURAGED. I know it is sometimes really frustrating to see your friends walking around with the new Nike Airs on their feet (that's a real brand, right?), or the Gucci bags around their shoulders. I can't say that I ever had those things as a youth either, but what I can say is that from what it seemed, I had much more fun than those kids. I didn't care about the material things in this life, therefore I spent my time strengthening the relationships and friendships I had instead of worrying when my online order was going to come in the mail. The one thing that I always got frustrated with was having a more dumpy car than everyone else. Being from a nicer area there were kids with Lamborghini's, Porches, Corvettes, Mustangs, BMW's, etc. I had this little dumpy 2001 Honda Civic that was a coupe and it made some noises when I drove. Now that I am older, I see that having those nice cars in high school is extremely ridiculous, but at the time I remember being so embarrassed. I remember the one day that I realized something totally awesome, I had a car! Some of you may not even have cars, but just always remember that no matter how wealthy or poor your family is, there is always room for gratitude and a lesson. You just have to keep pushing and finding the happier things in life. :) |
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